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Divination > Week of 15 Sep 2008
Submitted by: smw
Question: Hi Starlight. My boyfriend and i have been together for a year and about 6 months. At the start when we first met and were getting to know one another, he was emailing other women. i asked him in august last year to stop as i felt it was like a love triangle. In october last year he was still at it and i asked again. Told him at that stage if he didn't stop and give our relationship a chance he'd never see me again. He has stopped as i found out from a lady who's a fortune teller. Now i've been told by a reader that there's another man coming into my life next year. I'm not sure what type of a relationship my boyfriend really wants - a long term or casual relationship. I've asked him but he says he wants a long-term one but when i say his eye contact i felt it was a different answer. Can you advise me? Do i stick with my current boyfriend and work at the relationship or is the other man the right man for me?
Date and Time of Birth: 9 Sep 1977
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Answer: Hello SMW TRUST YOUR INSTINCTS! Well done for asking your boyfriend what type of relationship he wants. So many people never ask these obvious questions and just hope their partners can read their minds or try and guess theirs, but you have actually asked, so well done! Who knows if the other man is right for you.....? He hasn't turned up yet so you don't know what he is like. All I can say is if you make a commitment to give something a go, you should stick to it. If you feel strongly about your boyfriend and you want to make it work, then concentrate on who you are with now, not a mystery man who hasn't shown up yet. Be sure that your present boyfriend has stopped flirting with other women online. This tends to be a habit in men that do this, so he may not have stopped fully, he may be just having a break. Stay flexible and smart in case he does turn out to be bogus, but don't have your feet in two camps, focus on where you are now.

Submitted by: stayck
Question: after a year of dating, my boyfriend suddenly ended our relationship. it took several weeks before he would even talk to me explaining his reasons. there is a alot the doesnt make sense to me. if in my heart of hearts i felt it was meant for us to not be together i would walk away and not look back, but i do not. i love this man. i know he loves me, even though i have questioned that recently. my heart has healed a bit, i have stopped crying. but my soul feels so empty. what should i do? sometimes the sadness and emptiness is so that i feel as i cannot breathe.
Date and Time of Birth: 29 Oct 1965
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Answer: Stayck If you really love somebody then you will love them forever, because love never dies. This is why you are feeling the way you do. However, even if you do love somebody it doesn't mean that you will get together or stay together. It may be simply that your time with this person has ended now. Of course, you will not stop having feelings for him, but you have to except what you had before is over. If he ended the relationship in such an abrupt manner and then took so long to talk to you as to why he did this, then when he did it all sounded a little odd and as if something was up, I think we can say he has some stuff going on that needs sorting out. Give him the space he needs to do this. You can be a support, but if you are in it simply to get him back it won't be fair on either of you. He needs time and space to sort out his emotions and issues, so your desire to rekindle what he has finished is more about you than him. If you love him, you will put his needs first. This is love. I can understand that you feel sadness, this is normal, but emptiness means you have made this person your everything which is wrong. If we make other people or things our world, then what happens to our world when they go away or are taken away....? Our world collapses. Maybe he ended it all because of this reason...? It can be draining for a person if somebody "loves" them in this kind of way. If you are still confused about the reasons he told you he split up with you, then tell him and ask him to explain better. He at least owes you this. No real love is ever really lost. It just moves on or transforms.