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Divination > Week of 28 Jul 2008

Submitted by:	ZM
Question:	Dear StarBright... My life is a mess because I confided into some people who I thought were my friends but they have destroyed my life now by spreading slander about me...
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Answer:	Dear ZM Hold up.....! Unless you have been accused of a crime like murder and rape and you have been sent to jail for something you haven't done through slander, your life is not ruined! If this slander is something you can take these people to court to, then do it. It will restore your reputation and teach the people who slander that they can't get away with spreading lies about people. If this isn't as serious as going ahead with court proceedings, then you are going to have to get strong. Unfortunately, people will spread lies about you in an attempt to ruin your character. There are some seriously despicable characters in the world and we will cross their paths at one time or another. Learning how to deal with these kind of bad minded people is the key. I have had people try their worst on me, but because I only deal in the truth and I am very good at defending all things true and right, I always end up showing them up for what they really are. Liars and haters (that's slang for people who are seriously jealous of somebody). One thing to remember is, YOU ARE NOT YOUR REPUTATION. Bad people have undeservedly good reps and good people have undeservedly bad reps. It's all opinion, speculation and lies. Only people who have low intelligence and need to be told how other people are will go by reputations instead of really getting to know a person. When a person is intelligent and knows you for real, they won't listen to slanderous gossips and lies from other people. So if somebody wants to destroy a good rep, let them go ahead, because you know and the people who love you and that are really your friends and intelligent people know who you really are and won't take any notice of slander and lies. Hold your head up high and don't let them beat you down or make you cower into a corner. I would get a solicitor to write a formal letter to each of them to say that if any other further slanderous comments are made that you will take legal action against. This usually scares people like this off, because they know they are lying and if it all went to court they would be shown for what they really are. Also it will show them that they can't mess with you anymore. I think the lawyer could even get them to make a public apology. I don't know which country you live in, so I won't know the laws, but you could check it out. I know when people make up lies about you it can be hurtful, but don't let their hate effect your life to the point that you think it is ruined. It is not ruined, you just have to learn to deal with these kind of people. People like this usually end up hanging themselves with the strings of lies they have made up anyway.

Submitted by:	HM
Question:	Dear StarBright...I'm going to have a cessarean this Friday and i'm so afraid for my baby because i'm alone in this country and i don't know if i'm going to be a good mother and wife
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Answer:	Dear H.M By the time you read this reply you would have had your Cesarean section,so I hope everything went OK for you and your new baby are well, happy and you are settling into being a mummy. Having your first baby is a total life changing event and no woman is really prepared for it. It's something we have to learn to be, even if a woman is looking forward to a birth 100%, it will still bring new challenges. Don't worry. If you love your child and show your child love everyday, you have already become, not even a good mother, but a wonderful mother! Children appear to need a lot of things, but what they need above all otehr things is LOVE and a genuine, significant and open relationship with their parents or whomever is bringing them up. Just like your new bundle of joy that is new to life and learning, you are new to motherhood and you are learning too. Be gentle, patient and fair with yourself and stay as relaxed as you can. If you get stressed, your baby will pick up on your stressed emotions and react to them, like constantly crying and acting up. You said you were alone, but then asked if you would be a good wife, so I am a little confused as to whether you are married or not, or just don't have any friends. But if you are alone and you want some support, there may be lots of mother and baby groups to go to and this will help socially and with sharing any problems you have with being a new mum. Having a baby is a blessing, no matter how much hard work they can be. Some women can't have any, so enjoy the fact that you can and you have had one. You have given birth to a new life to help and nurture a soul through the journey of life. Embrace this new dimension to your life. Do not fear it. This is an exciting and special time. Don't miss the moment by focusing on the unknown negatives. Welcome new mummy! :0)

Submitted by:	ADR
Question:	Dear StarBright...can u show me a simple yes or no to my question. I am so desperate to find answers. Will my girlfriend be able to leave for abroad together with me this November?
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Answer:	Hello ADR The answer is NO, because I don't read cards as I keep reminding people. I am not a fortune teller. But I'll tell you something, a lot of problems, situations and finding enlightenment and the answers can be found with simple good common sense, personal responsibility and taking positive action. Do you want to know the answer to this question right now because you need to get some passports or buy appropriate luggage? Why is there such a desperate need for an answer to this type of question? Why can't you wait and let matters unfold and the answer reveal itself to you in due course? Do not rush the universe to give you an answer to a situation that may be still in progress. Practice patience and trust. :0)

Submitted by:	PJB
Question:	Dear StarBright...I am going through a major funk..I try listening to motivational tapes, I pray, I say positive affirmations, but nothing seems to be working. I've had a physical so I know it's nothing medical..and I've had no major disapointments in my life..any idea how to rise above my pity party? thank you in advance
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Answer:	Hello PJB Ooooh, the pity party! LOL We are all entitled to a little self pity and the odd pity party, but when the party never ends, hmmm, this is when we need to get real with ourselves. It is hard to come out of a funk sometimes. I don't know the reasons as to why you are in the funk, if something in particular has happened or even if it is an astrological matter. I also don't know how long the funk has gone on. Some people's idea of a long time is a short time to others. I know you said you had a medical, but did your doctor check for hormone levels or vitamin B levels? In women a lack of these can turn is into a completely different and depressive person. Also, you could be suffering from electromagnetic poisoning from wi-fi and mobile phone ariels and technology, also low frequency noise which disturbs our natural body's electromagnetic field causing depressing moods. There could be quite a few reasons as to your funky mood. If pray, affirmations and motivational tapes are not working, the moods sound serious and non fleeting. I don't know if you are able to, but can you take some time away from your environment now? Take a trip, extended if possible to a place where there are far fewer or less of the ills of modern life. Going into nature is a good thing if you can do this. Spending time in forests or near the sea, just anywhere where things are natural and made by God. Your diet could be a factor as well. If you are eating GM food (if you are in America this is nearly impossible not to be eating GM), this will play a major factor on your spirit, mental, emotional and physical state for the worse. GM food is just plain evil and people are not aware of the detriment is has to the human psyche. Last thought would be is that your house may need some Feng Shui. Your home may be harbouring stagnant and negative energy. If you can afford a professional to come in and do it, then go for it. One that is recommended is always better. If not, get a good book from the library or buy one. They are lost to choose from. You can search online as well as there are loads of really good websites. Or, if you can't get your head around all of that, a simple good clean up and clear out of your home may even help. Get rid of old clothes, broken items, ex lovers possessions including love letters (burn these saying a positive and releasing affirmation). In fact, a emotional release from any type of past emotional issues will be a good thing to do, like saying sorry to anybody that you need to say sorry too. Make a weekend of it. I love clearing out, it makes me feel fabulous afterwards. The cause could well be the major disappointments you say you have had in your life. Maybe you have not expressed your disappointments honestly and just carried on as if they haven't effected you and now they have all piled up inside of you and are weighing you down, making you feel low, and pitiful. We have to deal with our disappointments or they will eventually deal with us! I good emotional clear out is needed. A change of something, so you can finally release the funk and say thank you to the dj, call a taxi and finally leave the pity party. As long as you are breathing, life goes on and if something isn't working to make you feel right, you have to keep on trucking and find something that does. All in all, let any negative stuff inside of you come out. Don't worry about how it looks, just let it come out and you will finally rid of any emotions that are holding you in this negative mood. You sound like a proactive person to me, so get to this straight away. the only funk you should be associating yourself with is the George Clinton variety...and possibly Rick James, hehe. The very best of luck! :0)

Submitted by:	TMSL
Question:	Dear StarBright... I need some light and bright.....how can i achieve it? I'm down down down
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Answer:	TMSL Read my reply to PJB, I think this will help you as well. :0)

Submitted by:	CR
Question:	Dear StarBright... I am feeling lost as a relationship has came to an end, although I ended it as i didn't feel he was committed to me i am now wanting him to come back into my life. Please can you assist? CR
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Answer:	CR I can't assist a person who doesn't know what they want. You finished this relationship because you felt that he wasn't committed to you. Was this just something you felt, or did you have some genuine reasons or evidence that he wasn't committed to you? If your instincts say he isn't committed to you, they are probably right. So don't go back to him, unless you want to be in an uncommitted relationship, which some people do, but you have to want this. If you just messed up and made a mistake. Tell him and tell him why you behaved in the way that you did. If you are lucky he will take you back and you can start again and the right way, if not he won't and you would have learnt a lesson in relationships and hopefully not make the same mistake again. Either way, it will all work out for the best in the end. :0)

Submitted by:	Wee
Question:	Dear StarBright...please can you help me i have a fear of he weather which sounds daft this stops me from doing a lot of things because if the forcast is bad i won't go out. i am in a job i do not want to do and i recently thought i had met my sole mate as he was a friend as well as my lover. i could tell him anything and trusted him but there was another woman involved with him which i knew about and he told me he was going to finish with her and that he loved me and wanted to be with me but he did not leave her and now we don't even speak. i don't go out socialising because most of the time the weather scares me and it stops me doing a lot of things. i long to go to collage to further a carier but im scared incase the weather is bad this is getting me really down as i just want a normal life to go out and meet my sole mate and to be in a good job. can you help me as this is getting me down?
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Answer:	Dear Wee It sounds like you have a genuine phobia of bad the weather. The reasons you have this phobia can be found out by seeing a therapist of some sort. This is something you will have to definitely sort out, because it is already stopping you from doing lot of things in your life and the longer you leave the phobia, the stronger a hold on you it is likely to take. Talk you you doctor about it, but don't let him put you on any types of medication. You do not need medication for a phobia. Only go to your doctor if he is open and genuine and into true healing. Don't go to him for a phobia if he is "prescribed drug pusher". If you have had this phobia since you can remember, as in for many years since you were a child, then past life therapy could be an option. If it has occurred recently, try and think back when you first felt afraid of bad weather. Did something emotionally dramatic happen to you? Did you suffer some emotional trauma? This will help you to pin point the event that is the cause of the phobia. Make steps TODAY to find out what it is that is causing your phobia and then take the path to healing it. Don't be afraid to find out what it is that is causing you this fear. :0)

Submitted by:	MG
Question:	Dear StarBright...Everyday seems a dark day at the moment and I cant seem to focus on anything other than negatives, my relationship is breaking down around my ears and I'm powerless to stop it, I want to believe that by this loss the universe is opening up a brand new and better future for me, but just cant seem to believe in that fully. Can you Help me Please.
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Answer:	Dear MG There will be no brighter future from the universe or anybody or anything else if you don't sort out the negative attitude you have. We can all get negative at times, but it mustn't be the way you live all the time. You can visit the house of negativity, but don't move into the house of negativity and live their for the rest of your life. This is the kind of mortgage that will really kill you! I can't help you other than give you advice about books, workshops and help groups. You are the only person who can leave this type of mindset. Some people are naturally pessimistic or a bit miserable, but if you are negative and your negativity is starting to effect your relationships, then this isn't a good thing or even a natural thing. You have to ask yourself why you see things so negatively? Is it your upbringing? Is it just you? Try thinking positive at least once a day. Try and visualise positive outcomes to situations other than negative ones. If you want to be more positive you can, but you have to want to really change and you have to do the work to change, whether it is hard or not. Do you want to spend the rest of your life being negative and losing people in your life because they can't bare to be around you because of your negativity? If the answer is no, get to working on yourself right now. Seek help from professionals if you can't get a good book to do it. If you have any positive friends, get them to help you. Tell them that you want to change to being more positive and ask if they can help. People ask me all the time how can I be so happy and positive. To me this is such a strange question, because what else is there to be? Yes being happy and positive is part of my nature, but it is also a choice. To me it is a waste of time being negative. Yes we feel down and moany from time to time. Horrible things happen all the time and my life is far from my perfect vision, but I can't stop negative outcomes happening that are out of my control, but I can control my reaction to them. There is nothing to gain in being negative, just more negativity. I know that if I am positive there is at least a chance of something positive happening, there is no guarantee, but there is at least the chance. Also, I am very conscious of what type of energy I am putting out there. I think people who are negative are quite selfish and don't care about how their energy effects other people. They have a miserable outlook and want the world to share it with them. So not being selfish and not wanting to decrease the quality of life of others is something that will stop people who care from being negative. Nobody is saying you have to be Polly Anna and go around being somebody you are not, but you can be more positive and give out more positive energy, but you have to want to do this. Spend about five to ten minutes a day before you go to sleep, visualising positive events in your life. Do this for at least 2 weeks every night without fail and see what happens. It is time for you to start seeing the love and light in things instead of the fear and dark. :0)

Submitted by:	PAH
Question:	Dear StarBright... I would like to know if you could tell me if the man that I am in love with has very strong feelings for me?
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Answer:	PAH If you can't feel anything coming from him, then there is definitely no strong feelings for you from him. Strong feelings cannot be hidden, no matter how try somebody tries to hide them. Don't try and manufacture any strong feelings coming from this person. It will be a bad move. Always be real about other people's feelings. Even if you don't want to. :0)

Submitted by:	Suzanne
Question:	Dear StarBright...will i ever get myself to where I need to be or will I always be a lost cause, I never seem to get it right no matter what I try, I have many blessings,but I always end up at my wits end with nothing but heartache and worry?
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Answer:	Dear Suzanne That is such an odd question to ask about yourself. Do you see yourself as a lost cause? if you see yourself like this, the chances are so will lots of other people. You need to get some respect for yourself. Are you a good person? Are kind and compassionate? Do you help people unconditionally? Do you love unconditionally? Do you care about people regardless of their race, religion, social class, gender, etc...? If you are practicing these kind of things on a daily and regular basis, you are NOT a lost cause. Who cares about anything else? These things are the type of things that a really important if you don;t want to be a lost cause. You say you have many blessings, so what is your beef? We can't guarantee that we will get what we want materially in this world. The only thing we can guarantee is LOVE and how we treat ourselves and other people. Bring back into focus what is really important in life and you won't feel like such a lost cause. If other people can't see what is really important in life, then point it out to them and if they still don't want to believe in these things and choose materialism, then more fool them. Don't let people decide your worthiness! Go and be the good, cause that you were meant to be. ;0)

Submitted by:	CD
Question:	Dear StarBright... I've been thinking of my ex boyfriend a lot lately and I'm wondering if he'll call me eventually and I have also been feeling like we'll eventually get back together again
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Answer:	CD Why don't you call him? Why are you still wondering and waiting? Call him and ask him if he wants to get back with you. If he says yes, wooopeeee! You can be together again and stop wasting time dreaming about it. If he says no again you can stop wasting time dreaming about it and you can finally get over it and move on and be open to new and even better relationships. Either way, it's all good. :0)

Submitted by:	Erk
Question:	Dear StarBright... I have been through a horrible nasty divorce. I was married to this man for 13 years and we share 3 great kids. I was over him long before we divorced but he is not over me. He has been so nasty and manipulative yet claims to love me and want me back. I need guidance as to how to deal with him. I am my usual self, friendly open to compromise and discussions relating to our kids yet I can not seem to get him to detach, he continues to make rude and crude comments is very critical and basically makes trouble in whatever way he can. How do I help him move on? His dob is 09-20-1959.
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Answer:	Dear Erk I am sorry you had to go through such a bad divorce. Divorce is hard enough without having a mean and nasty partner to make matters even more unpleasant. There isn't much you can do to help your ex husband to disconnect. He is feeding off your energy and wants to remain connected to you for his psychic vampirish ways and to try and keep you intangled in his disfunctional ways. He needs your energy to continue with his negativity that keeps him alive. He is secretly crying out for love, but he doesn't know how to ask for it in a positive and loving way. His tactic of being mean, critical and trying to put you down is a major reflection on his own insecurities and self hatred. You were his energy source, his punching bag, his reason to wake up every day and be horrible. After many years of giving him the opportunity to do this, he is now losing you. He doesn't want this to happen, divorce or no divorce. You are doing the right thing by maintaining your good spirits and your original personality. He may work for the rest of his days to try and destroy the good in you, but so be it. That is his choice if he chooses to remain a negative person. You have better things to do, better places to be and better people to meet. You can't help him, you can only help yourself and your kids. Be determined to live a happy and loved filled life for you and your children despite his efforts. You can pray for him. Pray that he turns to the light and becomes a repentant and positive person. Whenever he does anything nasty, try not to let if effect you too much, just say a prayer for him. He is not your responsibility anymore. you share children and that is it. He is no longer your husband and this is something he will have to come to terms with whether he likes it or not. Well done on leaving a toxic marriage! So many people don't have the strength to leave bad marriages and relationships, but you did. You are a survivor and now have the opportunity for a better and more loving future. Peace and Blessings to you and your children. :0)

Submitted by:	AD
Question:	Dear StarBright... I often feel depressed because I am not pretty. People tell me all the time I am and avoid me because of it. I don't have any friends, I've never had a boyfriend. How can I find happiness when I have trouble finding friends?
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Answer:	Hello AD You may have Body Dysmorphic Disorder, which is a psychiatric disorder in which the affected person is excessively concerned about and preoccupied by an imagined or minor defect in his or her physical features. I am not sure what your friends mean when they say that people avoid you because you are pretty. Yes, some people are intimated by people who are really good looking. They assume that they may be stuck up or not want to talk to people who are not as equally as good looking as them, but this is dispelled immediately if the person who is perceived to be really good looking is a genuine and nice person when you finally get to talk to the person. So, either you are sending out vibes to people to scare them off or the reason why people don't want to get to know has nothing to do with you looking good or not. I think it may be the latter. There could be a range of reasons as to why you have trouble finding friends. I doubt that you live in a place that people are so unfriendly that nobody wants to be your friend. Other people in the same place must be forging friendships between themselves, so there must be something that is within you that is stopping you from reaching out, connecting and making friends. If it stems from your insecurities about how you feel you look, then you need to get some professional counselling on this to find the route cause of this problem, Some deep routed undealt with repressed emotion from the past, even possibly as far back as your early childhood, something you can't even remember. As for finding happiness. You can find this without friends. You can find this without anybody. True happiness is found within yourself and if you don't have this happiness within you, you will never be genuinely happy. It is the same as love, you must love yourself first to really feel love, receive love and to be able to give love to others. Your first step is counselling and then you can take the path of healing the negative feelings you have about yourself and after you have done this friends, boyfriends and happiness will all fall into place. The best of love, happiness and love to you! :0)