I decided to start with what I believe is the one area of our life that we can all too easily ignore - relationships. The most important relationship you will ever have is that with yourself. We all too often hear "if you can't learn to love yourself how can you truly love others"this CD answers every question you've ever had about a relationship and some you may not have even thought to ask!

Learn such things as:

• how to get a relationship back on track
• break the cycles in relationships that are just not working for you
• how to add that "amazing spark" back into your relationship
• how to get the partner of your dreams
• how to stop sabotaging your relationships

I am very passionate about this CD and the team from MJB Seminars as such I have managed to secure an extra special price just for us!

Enjoy - remember you deserve this little luxury, just imagine what will fall into place once your relationships are how you dreamed they should be. Visit the shop to learn more.

Blessings

Jen

“Whether you think you can, or whether you think you can't, either way you're right” – well done Mr Ford.

This is the start of a brand new year and not the type of post you might generally expect at this time of year. Generally we would be discussing new ideas springing forth and starting a fresh. However for me right now it's all about not giving up. My life it seems has this lesson embedded in it deeply. I wondered then how some give in and give up whilst others under the same conditions soar far above the clouds.

I read this for the first time today:
He who knows not and knows he knows not, is simple - Teach him
He who knows not and knows not he knows not, is a fool - Avoid him
He who knows and knows not he knows is asleep - Wake him
He who knows and knows he knows is wise - Follow him

Is it this simple? Do some people simply “get it” and others do not. Perhaps with that insight comes a level of conviction and clarity that some seemingly do not ever grasp. Ignorance is bliss does not work for me. I remember saying for many years “what you don’t know, you don’t go looking for”, well I think now that “what you don’t know, you need to go looking for”. Perhaps it is all our experiences that teach us to never give up.

"If you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you always got."

I love Edisons quote : "Many of life's failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up."

I think giving up is easy, it is surrendering, losing control and saying to the Universe you cannot be bothered any more, this is too hard for me. I think it is important to perhaps remember the brick walls are there to stop the people who don't want it badly enough.

We should shine, we should strive, grow, evolve, love, and become the luminescent magic glowing souls we were destined to be.

Mandela used this quote in one of his speeches; it is another favourite of mine:  “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won't feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. It's not just in some of us; it's in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

I found some lovely quotes that I think reinforce my beliefs here and perhaps can help us when we feel that quitting would be easier, drawing on some of the worlds greatest heroes and s-heroes shows us how we all start from the same place it’s just what happens from that place that makes all the difference.

If you don't like something, change it. If you can't change it, change your attitude. -- Maya Angelou

Character cannot be developed in ease and quiet. Only through experience of trial and suffering can the soul be strengthened; vision cleared; ambition inspired, and success achieved. -- Helen Keller

What comes out of you when you are squeezed is what is inside you. -- Wayne Dyer

I count him braver who overcomes his desires than him who overcomes his enemies, for the hardest victory is victory over self. -- Aristotle

Success is not measured by what a man accomplishes, but by the opposition he has encountered and the courage with which he has maintained the struggle against overwhelming odds. -- Charles Lindbergh

Never let a problem to be solved become more important than a person to be loved. -- Barbara Johnson

To achieve the impossible, one must think the absurd; to look where everyone else has looked, but to see what no else has seen. -- Anonymous

The greatest glory in living lies not in never falling, but in rising every time we fall. -- Nelson Mandela

A man either lives life as it happens to him, meets it head-on and licks it, or he turns his back on it and starts to wither away. -- Gene Roddenberry

Fall down seven times, get up eight. -- Japanese Proverb

The difference between a successful person and others is not a lack of strength, not a lack of knowledge, but rather a lack of will. -- Vince Lambardi

Always bear in mind that your own resolution to success is more important than any other one thing. --Abraham Lincoln

If you take too long in deciding what to do with your life, you'll find you've done it. -- George Bernard Shaw

One of the most tragic things I know about human nature is that all of us tend to put off living. We are all dreaming of some magical rose garden over the horizon - instead of enjoying the roses that are blooming outside our windows today. -- Dale Carnegie

A competitive world has two possibilities for you: you can lose or, if you want to win, you can change. -- Lester C. Thurow

Perhaps I’m just not built to give up, it’s not part of my DNA, some moments are harder than others, those times that seem to pull you to depths you previously thought were far out of your league, and then just before you think you cannot possibly go any further an untapped reserve of strength comes to the surface and you’re back out there again, ready for the brilliant part of the journey.

And finally in Mr Churchill's words “Never, never, never, never give up.”

The below video clearly and simply explains how our thoughts really do shape our reality. Life can be that simple, you can just simply choose. I know firsthand when you're living the experience of an emotional life changing event (or even the small hiccups) that the initial overwhelming feelings can sweep you up and feel like you're almost carried away. I am also acutely aware that life doesn't always seem to come with answers. However I am also aware the times when you feel most overwhelmed are in fact the greatest opportunities for change.

I recently went through quite possibly my biggest life lesson to date. I'm not sure I can put into words the depths of pain and emotional whirlwinds I experienced. Several weeks in, I sat on my bed one morning and it occurred to me that I knew where my destiny was as a result of this lesson. I could see it clearly. I knew where this ended. Then the most wonderful thing happened, I realised I had a choice. I could choose how I got to this destiny. It was as if in front of me two paths appeared. One shrouded and encased in darkness, pain, misery, anger and hurt (all very justifiable) or I could choose to walk another path, one with love, light, laughter, joy, happiness. This was a big moment to me, for the first time in hours, days and weeks I felt a shift. I felt empowered. I could choose. I knew how it ended and I knew I had two paths and it was now up to me.

At first glance and I am being completely honest here, I considered the dark path, it would be easy, in fact I could simply allow myself to fall into this abyss. I considered that feeling for a few moments, how would I feel on this path? What feelings and emotions would I experience? Did I want to fill my body with hatred? I knew in that moment that there really was only one path for me. My light filled path appeared to be all up hill and looked considerably more arduous than the one I could simply fall into. I also knew that this would be a physical choice that I would have to make each day. However knowing all this, it actually was the easier choice. It only took a few steps into this path and I realised how much more life made sense. I understood where I was heading, that I was making a choice and my choice was surrounded by light and love. The irony of this life lesson and my choosing the initally seemingly more difficult path is I now believe that it was in fact the easier path, each step felt guided and supported and safe.

If you're at a cross roads right now, consider the options, dip your toe into the path of darkness, allow it to envelop you, then take a step back and just consider if only for another moment or two the path surrounded in light... when you look at it that way, there really is only one choice.

 I feel sometime like I write about all the negative things, the things you need to fix and the things that are broken. So today I wanted to write about some positives.

One of the most amazing ways to get a buzz out of life is to think about all the things you can be grateful for, and it requires so little effort.  Just stop, quiet your mind, and think of one positive thing in your life.  For me I think of my children, my wife, and oddly enough my dog.  They all put a smile on my face and "warm and fuzzy" in my soul.

Got that warm and fuzzy feeling? Ok, now I want you to really take a minute to actually remember that feeling.  Did your body relax... did your mind relax... did you smile... did you close your eyes?  All of these physical things happened because of a positive mental image, something you were truly grateful for.

Now here's the best part.  If you can take that vibe that you just generated and achieve that peacefulness with your objectives in mind then the sky really is the limit.  It's always easy to visualise things we have, like family or friends, experiences, or "things". It's a little tougher to visualise what we don't have or haven't yet achieved.  But if you can get your body to react to your unachieved objectives in the same way that you did for what you do have already then nothing will stand in your way.

So think about your objective, visualise yourself having already achieved your goal, and work on that grateful feeling.  The secret is that the universe is not going to be too interested in helping you get there unless you are already grateful for it.  You read that right... you must be grateful for the things you haven't yet achieved, or the objectives you are aiming for.  Only then will the universe start delivering for you - or at least help you on your way.

Did you lose your warm and fuzzy feeling?  Don't worry - you've got a whole world of inspiration to be thankful for already, so try and try again.

Photo: flickr:jervetson (CC 2.0)